Saturday, September 12, 2015

Things are Happening: North Dakota Trip and Adoption Announcement

It's hard to believe that summer has passed and we're heading into fall. Over the past two weeks, this massive tree over our home in San Diego has been shedding its leaves. They are all over our backyard, and even though we share space with three other carports, the leaves love our space. I picked up that large pile yesterday. Crickets were living in the leaves, and they were jumping everywhere.

I grew up in the Midwest in a yard surrounded by trees. A few pile of leaves doesn't bother me much. When I was a teenager, it took me six hours by myself to rake up our front yard. This doesn't include transporting all the leaves away. This was before we had MP3 players and cell phones. We had a cassette player plugged into the garage that I cranked up to full blast (I lived in the middle of nowhere) and went to work. My cats were helpers so I might have gotten distracted a little bit while throwing them into the piles. The air was crisp, and I had to wear a sweater and gloves. As you can see, raking leaves wasn't such a bad memory. It's a reminder of autumn-- crisp air, cloudy skies, and mystery.

I found fall in Southern California!
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It's different here in San Diego. We are in the middle of a heat wave, the ocean is warmed up, and I'm obsessed with being in the pool. While raking those leaves, the smell and humidity brought me back in some ways. At the same time, it brought me forward to where I'm at--- which isn't a bad place.

North Dakota Trip
We visit our home state of North Dakota this summer. My parents' 50th wedding anniversary is this week. September is a busy time for my family so we decided to go back earlier to celebrate with everyone. My brothers and I planned a lovely gathering at a hotel in Fargo. It was the immediate family, along with one of my many uncles who was their best man. It was a great time to connect with everyone, especially my nieces and nephews. It's one of the hardest things about being away, but technology helps fill in that space.


Red River cutting between Grand Forks, ND and East Grand Forks, MN
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After that weekend, we spent the week visiting whoever we could. We would get up at 7am and stay up until midnight. The sun is different there, and at ten o'clock, the sun was beginning to go down. To us, it felt like 8pm (which it was!). We also attended a local convention, CoreCon, that we helped run for four years, which is like a giant party to us.  It was nice seeing our hard work instilled within the convention after leaving and appreciating how they have made it continue to grow. We entered the costume contest, something we've never done before, and we won Best Workmanship (which is more Joey's doing than my own) with our Spider-Man and Spider-Gwen costumes.

Joey showing his costume to his Grammy
Spending time with friends and family at CoreCon--
in and out of Spider-Man and Spider-Gwen costumes
Flying home wasn't a weird experience this time around.There was nothing pulling me backwards to regret our decision to move away. I still refer to North Dakota as "back home", and I don't see anything wrong with that. I lived there for the first thirty years of my life and its impression on me will never change.

And another reason why I was looking forward to being back in San Diego is we spent the last two weeks celebrating and talking to people about adoption. Joey and I put in our birth mother letter to a local facilitator and we were thrilled that we were able to share the news with the people that we love in person.

Joey and I have talked about adoption since the topic of having children came up. Joey's mother and uncle were adopted, and it made sense for us to grow our family this way. When things aligned in that direction, it was natural for us to make the decision. We're fortunate that we found someone in San Diego to help us fulfill this dream of ours, and has done so for many families in the San Diego area. There is no doubt in my mind when I think about everything that we were lead to this city, and this place, to find our child. We're waiting to be matched with a birth mother (or parents) and not sure how long it will take. However, we're up for what life brings us!

Our announcement we shared with friends and family
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And that's June! I will post more about July and August in the weeks to come. And maybe I'll catch up with September. I'm back in RevisionLand with a shiny new project that I'm excited to tackle at last. Feels good getting back into the groove of things.

Natasha